The need to display sexual attraction in implicit ways arose in an era of strict rules and regulations, when attitudes towards the intimate process were taboo to church moral codes and standards. Both the man and the woman needed to show their partner a willingness to act without fear of publicity and public censorship. It was in these cases that the non-verbal signals made it possible to know sympathy and desire.
Wanting a woman and not showing her is wrong, from a normal man's point of view. Therefore, a potential partner, unconsciously or unconsciously, tries to show the object of her desire her interest through sexual gestures and postures.
When a man sees an attractive woman, he unwittingly starts giving an "alpha male". He denotes readiness for sexual intercourse with safe postures and showing a high tone of the physical state of his body. This is usually seen in the following manifestations:
- man straightens his back and straightens his shoulders;
- he tries to draw the stomach deeper;
- if a man is standing, his legs are shoulder-width apart, showing special stability and strong posture;
- it is also important to keep track of the location of the man's shoe socks, if he is interested in an attractive person, then they will be directed to this woman;
- if a man is sitting on a chair, he will involuntarily spread his legs, so, as if he were showing his genitals, ready for mating.
The excited man begins to straighten his clothes and hair in hopes of attracting the woman's attention with his appearance of her. Instead of an edgy and heavy gait, he moves quickly, like an athlete, while he corrects the flaws of the figure, straightens and removes his stomach
A sheen appears in the eyes, the skin on the face is automatically stretched and the bags under the eyes disappear on their own. In general, passion makes a person much younger and indeed more desirable for a friend.
Now such a gesture is rarely used, and many have already forgotten it, but even fifty years ago, the thumbs placed behind the belt of the trousers meant a rude and ostentatious action towards a woman, aimed at demonstrating one's genitals .
The delay in the man's gaze on the object of his lust says a lot. When he looks a woman in the eye for a little longer than the rules of decency dictate, it indicates his arousal and willingness for closer contact.
Factors Affecting Attraction
There are several factors that can affect the level of sexual desire in men. This factor should include:
- Visual image. The fact is that the face of a beloved girl, the attractive smile of some stranger, as well as any other eye contact that has a sexual connotation, is capable of arousing a man. At the same time, after such signals, images of future sexual relations with a woman begin to appear in his head.
- Excitement from the sense of smell. The smell has an exciting effect on the representatives of the stronger sex, especially a natural female aroma has a similar property. Essential oil and pheromones are often included in some mild pathogens.
- Hearing. Arousal from hearing contact is also possible. The sound of a name, a light whisper can have an aphrodisiac effect for men.
- Taste. Few people know, but arousal can also be increased by some aphrodisiac foods that increase blood circulation in the genitals. These include nuts, seafood, bananas, honey, and chocolate.
- Touch. Of course, the most powerful will be the arousal of touch. In this case, we are talking about a naturally physiological reaction. Any healthy man will have an erection even after a short masturbation. Increased arousal during intercourse.
From the first touch
The touches have a strong character, sometimes it is they who betray a complete male desire to get closer to a partner. Watch the guy's behavior - if he's interested in you, he'll do whatever he can to please even the smallest details. With short-term or spontaneous contact with the body or hand, a guy may experience goosebumps all over his body, which will speak of his arousal in him, an increased desire to get hold of you.
If a young person likes you, he will do everything he can to prove it in practice. He will unconsciously try to take your hand, touch your knees, pull your hair out of your eyes, suggesting an increased desire to continue a pleasant evening.
Touch sometimes reveals much more than the eyes.
The tremor of the hands, a certain caution, the fear of frightening the partner immediately betray the man's arousal.
Along with the touch, he begins to say pleasant words, turns pale, sometimes blushes, feels a wave of goosebumps when tactile contact occurs with each other. At this moment, information is generated in the man's brain, which directs the signals of him there, which he "thinks" in such situations.
Signs of sexual arousal in men
Sexual arousal is a kind of stress on the body and is accompanied by an increase in blood pressure, increased heart rate and breathing and dilated pupils, so an indirect sign may be a certain emotion of a man, a coarser voice than usual.
The maina sign of sexual arousalin men, an erection occurs when the penis is filled with blood, and becomes hard, the pressure rises, which can reach blood pressure, which slightly changes shape and increases in size, eg. it becomes 6-7 cm longer and 2-3 cm increases in diameter and becomes hard. This allows it to be inserted into the vagina during intercourse.
But it happens that the erection does not occur due to various types of vascular diseases, smoking, diabetes mellitus or some kind of stress and nervous or psychological disorders. All of these diseases make it difficult for arterial cells to relax and, as a result, sufficient blood flow is not guaranteed.
Arousal in men is much easier and faster than in women, and its strength depends on the presence of a sufficient amount of hormones and strength in the body. Also, the level of arousal depends on anthropology, for example, little ones feel sexual attraction more than tall boys.
Arousal in men can only arise with a thought about sexual intercourse and quickly disappears even after the end, moreover, you can arouse a man by flirting with him, exposing your body, etc.
If a man is very horny, then he has a conditionsexual arousalit disappears very quickly and the sperm expulsion process occurs quickly. For men, in addition to various types of caresses, sexual stimulants are also liberators. They can be just one type of a woman's genitals and touch them, as well as the feeling that a woman is in an aroused state. They also include various types of auditory, visual and nasal stimuli.
In the process of sexual intercourse itself, in the process of friction of his penis against the walls of the vagina, the nerve endings are even more irritated and, as a result, even greater arousal occurs, the man's face may begin to blush and he begins to breathe frequently. If the frictions are stopped for a short time, a gradual outflow of blood occurs and the penis begins to soften, if they are resumed, an erection occurs again and this, in turn, allows you to prolong the process of sexual intercourse.
The maximum sexual arousal and the flow of pleasure in men are observed during orgasm and ejaculation, and the high, in turn, is divided into 3 phases - this is a gradual accumulation of arousal, the highest degree of arousal, eg. orgasm itself and the stage of the decline of arousal.
Before the onset of ejaculation, the man begins to feel the gentle contractions of the vas deferens and bubbles, these sensations last a few seconds and are a sign of the onset of orgasm. These contractions stop after the high pressure sperm is released, and the highs also end there. Those. it only lasts a few seconds.
After the end of the relationship, the opposite process is observed, the so-called detumescence. At the same time, there is a rapid outflow of blood and a decrease in the size of the penis, and it becomes soft, but if a man is strongly attracted to his partner, this process may take a little longer.
In men, as well as in women, after the sensation of orgasm, there is a feeling of refractory pause, this is the period when arousal does not occur even after erogenous exposure. The duration of this period in men is different and can range from several minutes to several days.
Scientists identify several factors for the normal course of the sexual intercourse process, including: - neurohumoral, eg. the process of blood flow, which provides an influx of hormones, which contributes to the onset of sexual desire and arousal; - mental, contributing to the onset of an erection immediately before the onset of intercourse; - erection, contributing to the stimulation of the penis; - ejaculatory, providing ejaculation.
How do you know if a guy is horny?
Sure, for a permanent member. This is what many girls think. But this is wrong. After all, an erection may not be complete, not strong, or even absent when aroused. Therefore, staring blankly between her beloved's legs is definitely not an option.
The boy's arousal also manifests itself in signs such as:
- Rapid breathing
- Conversation on intimate topics;
- heart-pounding;
- Confusion of thought;
- A muffled voice.
Also, the young person may start touching or harassing you. He can't control himself. Looks like he's been drinking a little, although he's sober.
The pupils of such a person are dilated and the appearance is a bit silly. By the way, arousal in girls manifests itself in much the same way.
In this case, it is worth considering the big picture. Excitement manifests itself in everything. After all, if his heart simply beats or smiles often, that doesn't mean. that he wants you. Maybe the person is just shy.
Signs of a guy's arousal
There are several other indirect signs that he craves intimacy:
- Thirst. Unless, of course, it's really hot right now;
- Inhibition, or vice versa, great activity of the movements;
- Fixing your clothes, hairstyles, etc. ;
- Suck the abdomen and straighten the back;
- Unexpected embarrassment.
Also, a horny person will strip you with his eyes, even if he is the most cultured guy in the world. And sometimes, he may just leave you (in the sense of home), scared of his feelings about him. This is possible on first dates. If you have not just met, rather, in this state, he will come home to you.
And don't forget the fuck. This is (albeit silly) but a tried and tested method. Try looking at him thinner than the belt. If there is "something sticking out", there is 100% arousal.
What turns boys on?
Almost anything can turn a young man on. Starting with bare breasts and ending with simple conversations. Male sexuality is designed in such a way that the desire for sex comes quickly and is conveyed through images. That is, he doesn't need a romantic evening and candles to want you.
Many don't know it, but banal hugs turn kids on. Indeed, during this process, the girl is pressed against her chest. That's why you shouldn't hug your friend often if you're not going to admit him into your bed.
Remember that a guy can be aroused: panties sticking out from under jeans, fishnets, a short skirt, a wide cutout on a dress, tight pants, such as leggings, etc. Therefore, you shouldn't wear anything frank if you don't want to be seen as a piece of meat.
Excitatory factors
The factors affecting arousal in the fair sex are as follows:
- Love. The most important pathogen for women is precisely this feeling. Girls always need to whisper kind and gentle words in her ear. At the same time, love wins not only in words, but also in deeds. Therefore, a man should not be stingy with generous chivalrous deeds.
- The smell of a man. This factor largely determines the possibility of interaction between a woman and a man. In this case, we are talking about natural pheromones. If we talk about perfume, then here you need to approach very carefully, carefully choosing one or another perfume for yourself. Therefore, a man should not skimp on such an important aspect.
- Appearance. This factor is also of great importance in arousal. A majestic representative of the stronger sex who goes to the gym, takes care of her body, and health is already interesting for a woman. In addition, it is necessary to monitor the condition of the hair, nails and even clothes. A woman can be aroused by a nice tie, a nice dress, a slightly unbuttoned shirt, the right underwear and much more. It should also be noted that some women may be aroused by the slightly pointed beard, hairy and strong arms, and the feel of a male shaft. As for the latter, this is already foreseen by nature.
- Situation. Of particular importance in the excitement is the setting, the meeting or the date. Many people are always looking for the best, the arrangement of things in this case is no exception. It should also include music, which can add more euphoria to a date, a beautiful place, delicious dishes, which also include the aphrodisiacs described above.
erogenous zones
Some women assume that there is only one erogenous zone in the male body and it is located in the groin area. In fact, it's all a bit different. There are many more erogenous zones in the body than the stronger sex. To tune a partner to intimacy, you will need to turn on your imagination and resort to the help of not only your hands, but also your lips.
Where are the erogenous zones in men:
- Face and neck area. Scientists were able to show that these places are highly susceptible. Stimulating these areas will help awaken desire in the gentleman. You can touch your neck with your fingertips, massage your earlobes and kiss your loved one on the face.
- Chest and back. Sexologists advise to start flirting with your loved one, alternately touching the surface of his back and chest. You can also use the boyfriend's shoulders, it is recommended to massage gently, making wavy movements. The back is massaged along the entire spine, the touch is soft and smooth. But often it is enough to approach the man from behind and run your hands on his chest, towards the lower abdomen.
- nipples. This erogenous zone is distinguished by its high sensitivity. Touching this area can give your partner pleasure and can cause discomfort. Since the sensitivity of each of the stronger sexes is a purely individual matter.
- Stomach. This is an area that requires special attention. You can touch it with your hands, lips and even your head. In Thailand and beyond, the crown massage is very popular. It is performed following some rules: the girl sits on top of her partner, tilts her head and touches the top of her head on her stomach, making circular movements. The diameter of the circle is gradually increased. Such a massage will not only help awaken a man, but also increase her sexual activity.
- Hands and fingers. To stay in bed with a loved one for a long time, you need to pay attention to her palms. They can be: rubbed, kissed, ironed. There are nerve endings on the fingertips, they improve the transmission of impulses to the brain.
- Inner thigh. To quickly tune your partner into the right mood, it is worth giving him a foot massage, which in every way affects this area. Through the arteries, blood flows to the organs of the reproductive system, a foot massage will improve blood flow and provide a lasting erection. For this reason he is resorted to in the treatment of impotence.
How to quickly excite a loved one in bed with your hands and caresses? To do this, you need to hug your partner's chest with your hands and press against his back with your bare chest.
In order for "everything to work out" and the partner was happy with intimacy with his beloved, you need to be liberated, be active. The main thing is to feel the man, this will allow you to predict his wishes, to read the most intimate thoughts.
Should the guy be horny or is he already horny?
There are many ways to check if your lover wants sexual contact right now. As you know, an erection is the most striking sign of male arousal, however, of course, it is not always possible to verify this. Therefore, it is worth knowing some other less obvious details that will betray your partner's secret desires.
- Physiological signs. During arousal, small changes in the work of the male body begin to occur: the pulse speeds up, sweating increases, and a slight tremor of the hands and voice is possible. The latter, among other things, often becomes low and slightly hoarse, acquiring velvety and playful notes.
- View. If a guy craves you, he'll literally eat your body with his eyes. In general, the state of male arousal is similar to a light trance, which will not be difficult to catch in his eyes.
- Posture and gestures. A man burning with sexual desire will always keep his body facing you. Guys often assume the pose of a self-confident macho, crossing their hands on the belt and pushing their body slightly forward, as if demonstrating their dignity. While this doesn't always work - it all depends on the person's character and his self-esteem Pay attention to the position of the shoes - if the guy wants you, his shoe socks will definitely be directed in your direction
- Talk. If a man's thoughts are worried about your body, there may be long pauses in conversations. This means that your lover is so absorbed in fantasies about sex that the ability to think about anything else simply disappears.
Words and caresses
If your loved one is not in a hurry to go to bed, then you should try to excite him with words. You may have a rich vocabulary and know your partner's preferences, but still feel some discomfort by whispering various phrases to him.
Words and phrases are chosen individually, a lot depends on the receptivity of the gentleman. But to get the best result, you need to complement the words with affection.
Caressing is a broad concept that can include hands, feet, kisses and other elements of the love game. However, oral contact is also called an intimate caress and massage.
If the decision has been made to completely influence the beloved, then you can combine affection, kisses, caresses with words. This will allow the man to reach the peak of arousal faster.
If all of the above methods do not work, you should think about using the pathogen. Aphrodisiacs, lubricants, tablets and creams act as such a remedy. But it is better to coordinate their use with a partner - this will help to avoid embarrassing situations.
Signs of clear attention
In fact, it's not hard to tell if a man wants you. He won't hide it much.
It is important that women do not show their sympathy and are modest, mysterious, intriguing and make men suffer in ignorance. But the stronger sex is organized differently: its representatives are usually very direct, open and persistent
Most likely, a man will show signs of attention, because he doesn't just want a woman, but he surely thinks about how to get her. And to achieve this, you need to take care of her persistently, give beautiful gifts and flowers, give beautiful compliments and so on.
Having sexual lust will cause him to choose special gifts and utter special words. It will be different from romantic youthful impulses and will surely have subtle sexual overtones. So you can reliably and accurately understand what is on the gentleman's mind.
If he has introduced you to a sexy lingerie, dressing gown or dressing gown, this is already an open offer and not even a suggestion. But this rarely happens, more often a man who wants a woman gives her very cute charms: soft teddy bears, cute jewelry, bouquets of flowers and sweets.
Suddenly it became so beautiful. . .
Every man perfectly understands that in order for you to fall into his strong arms, he must be attractive.
Then suddenly it changes: he wears clean shirts, always smells good and you can't remember when he was unshaven.
Appearance will give you a straight answer: If he always looks clean and fresh, going on a date with you, chances are he's attracted and hopes to get you.
His hands reach out like a magnet. . .
For every man, the female body is an object of admiration. And if a man wants you, he first of all will experience an irresistible desire to touch. Distinguishing simple, friendly touches from those with sexual overtones is easy.
If his touches are gentle, very light, often as if they were accidental, this is a clear sign of sexual desire.
It is also worth knowing the places where they reach male hands. This place is slightly below the waist (a polite man is unlikely to grab you by the buttocks, although he will certainly have such a desire), hair and neck, face, wrists, hips, knees, legs.
Also, men are always very excited by the female smell. Therefore, you will be able to notice that a man tries to smell you - to say something in his ear, while inhaling the smell of your hair, kissing, inhaling the smell of perfume.
It is better than the others!
If you are with your chosen man in a common company and there are other representatives of his kind of him, obviously he will try to be better than the others.
Men by nature are leaders, conquerors, it is very important for them to be first. So he will try his best to be much better than others to achieve your position
In general, it will not be difficult for a woman to determine that a man wants her a lot.
Everything in him betrays this desire: the eyes become as if for a drag, the gaze wanders and he cannot stop before your eyes, he is a little nervous, pays obvious attention and seems to look at you like a predatory animal
Even the most modest and shy guy will not be able to hide the desire for him. He is too strong and one way or another he will manifest himself anyway.
How to use this knowledge is another question. A woman is born to be admired, to be the object of lust and dreams.